The Power Of NOW!

Dear amar, why does every blog post you have almost always has an EXCLAMATION sign to it ?

Of course it does, because life is about exclaiming all the time. Being passive and wishing for things to happen really doesn’t get anything

happening. The only way for things to happen is to make them happen. But stumbling and falling through every step of the way can also be

stressful, i know , been there done that. I used to wish that i could find a program that is cheap (like dirt cheap 99 cents kinda cheap) and

something that i could squeeze in between my lunch break, say an hour at max. There weren’t any. So when there is a wheel what do you do ?

You make something better than the wheel. That is why i have come up with 99 series of programs to help people get over their immediate

limiting beliefs and values. Once the initial breakwater has been destroyed everything else just flows!

So flow with the go…….

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The 3rd session 99’ners of USJR and JJC of CEBU. This was one of the first 99 series programme that i did. What i realized is not many will do what it takes RIGHT NOW, even at a very young age…This bunch, did. Question is did they continue ?

 

GET bla bla bla QUICK ! < === Utter bollocks

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“I have made millions by just sitting on my ass ” “I got lazy and got thin””Do nothing and wish it, want it and have it”

“YOU TOO can now get all this for a LOW LOW LOW PRICE OF %**.”

Sound familiar ?

These are the merchants of hope in this new era. Merchants of self “empowerment” as they would like to call it. Essentially con men of the internet age.

SO many of them flood the web that self help has become a joke in certain quarters.  You will be met with glares and statements  when you say that you are a trainer and such with statements like  “another M O T I V A T I O N A L guy”

Why is this happening i ask ? I believe very deeply in Self Help. It is a great thing to have resources be made available to the public by genuine trainers and coaches who genuinely want change for you as they have done for themselves. This may make me sound like a cultist, but i believe absolutely in the Neuro Linguistic Programming Technics,  in hypnosis and therapy. I believe in the forces of the law of attraction, affirmations, meditation, the power of the subconscious mind and many more in those lines. I subscribe to guru’s like Tony Robbins, a truly genuine soul who has helped me so much on a personal level and though i have never met the man personally , his work, books, blogs, video and audios has truly transformed my life. The late Dr.Stephen Covey, Dr.Wayne Dyer, Dr.Pillai, Bo Sanchez, Robert Kiyosaki and the list goes on and on and on. As much as i owe my existence to my parents, i owe in an amount no lesser than the  biggest value of my life today to these guru’s. These people however have a genuine quality to them. I spend a lot of my resource, money and time on self growth. One of my mentor’s , Mr. Barney Wee was instrumental in helping me navigate through my most difficult times years ago. A man who charges premium consultancy rates, but his help is genuine. So genuine in his effort to help me on a personal level he did not charge me a single cent.

I also get spammed with ton’s of emails and video mails of self made guru’s who claim to do webinars, have made gazillion dollars, bla bla bla. No substance. The moment you download their so called e-books, it’s nothing but ready made e-book templates which they got for free over the net to begin with, and the best part the so called book is just a tool to fish for more sales. When i decided to help coach people i set very clear standards. My rates will be premium because i give what  most people can only say they give. I give assurance of maximum amount of success, with one pre-condition. The participants must participate. This is a value that i have learned from all of my mentors.

My modules are custom made by me and my partner also another international trainer. What we teach and impart comes from a great deal of experience, knowledge that was shared to us and materials that have been created and tested for efficiency. Very rarely do you see genuine trainers spamming your inbox bugging you to buy this and that none stop. Though sadly some have been taken in by that wave, i would like to believe it is their business people who have made them do this decision.

However their content still caries weight to this day. It’s been more then 10 years since i purchased my first Tony Robbins books, almost a decade since i have been to a Robert Kiyosaki seminar and used all of his materials for my personal growth, a long time too has passed since i have finished my NLP course . But every one of that investment worked and is continuing to work. I spent a great deal of money and time, but hey, it’s far worth it than a quick fix that comes from some “MANUFACTURED GROUP” from the net.

You see the reason i wrote this particular blog is not to vent or to make some people sound bad and some better. It’s to tell you that you want something, anything at all to happen in your life, it starts with ACTION. The key word is to do. That’s what all of my mentors taught me and have in common. DO ! You wanna get skinny, stop shoving fatty foods in your mouth and start running, at least! You want wealth, then stop using your credit cards, pay up your debt and live with in your means until you have the means to live bigger ! No amount of sitting and visualizing and affirming is going to do any good if you don’t actually do anything. Doing the same thing everyday and expecting different results is insanity. And this was said by Albert Einstein, the smartest man in the world at a time!

So ask your self how will you loose weight if the system you bought of the net say’s you can eat and do what you want and just meditate and you will loose weight. That’s like saying keep punching yourself in the face, but visualize you don’t have a black eye and you wont get one. Really ?

Get help, get inspired, but if anyone say’s you get something for nothing, the deal is usually you get nothing.

Start doing my friends !

p/s: if i was a “MANUFACTURED GROUP” i would end this email with click on this button to find out how you can bla bla bla bla. But i am genuine in my willingness to help because the more i give the more i receive. If you really want to talk about a potential strategy or find out how to best do something and you genuinely cant afford it, let me know and i will do what i can to help without causing a major dent in your wallet !

Get Real, Get Dirty, Get Actin’ !

SEE & BE SEEN2013, came too soon. A time when maturity is colliding with interwoven insecurities and instabilities, a time when i am becoming my own with my own life, my own set of rights and wrongs, i wonder if 2013 could have waited a little longer before popping into my life.

But, that is the reality of life. It’s harsh, it’s imperfect, it’s volatile and it’s brutal. People undeserving of goodness get all the good, those who lie, steal and cheat, murder and rape, deceit and manipulate seem to get all the best of life. But life is also beautiful, wonderful, peaceful, loving, joyous, celebrations all around, hope and dreams still alive in every corner. Success stories of people rising from rags to riches, families reunited, lost loves getting together, babies being born, sun…..well the sun is still shining the last time i looked.

I am now an orphan. Lost my mother to a reason that is still hard for my logical side to comprehend. But in that loss i gained much more, so even in death my mom gave me something. My understanding about money and people has evolved. I still hate some people passionately and love many others with the same ardor and passion, if not more.

More grey hairs, but am grateful for the hair !

At 33 still have a waistline of 29 inches and a belly that isn’t obscene. Technically still not a millionaire, but i wont stop trying. Debt’s..ah well, seems like it’s my most loyal friend. It’s never left me free from the time i was 19. But it’s ok, lots of it are manageable though some can be a bit annoying.

So what is 2013. It’s what it always has been from the moment i began life on this blue ball we call earth. It’s living, growing and experiencing whatever all the years have got to give me. Debts or none, deaths or none, alone or not,life happens. And it will keep happening even after your gone. Making it influential to those around you, is truly a gift that you leave behind to the living.

2013, is going to be the best year of my life. But so will 2014, 2015, 2016……………………

Live By Design.

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2013. That what it should all be about. The last 3 decades of my highly eventful life has changed me in ways that i can’t even begin to fathom. Maybe it’s life’s way of screwing with you. You want something badly enough. NO! You not gonna get that. You really don’t want something, here you go, have this. No amount of praying, having faith in your religion’s deity or reading “The Secret” or copious amounts of metaphysics and pseudoscience will change that. If it ever did, it’s because it was a mathematical outcome, the law of averages.

2012 was a bitch. I will not lie about it. If 2012 was a living being, i’d beat the crap out of it. But it wasn’t. But it did teach me one thing. You are fully responsible for how you want to live your life. It’s never really about the money. Bill’s and expenses will never end, even untill after you are dead. So big whoop. Do your best, fret not. If ever you feel overwhelmed. Stop. Change course for a while, get ideas outside of your own head. Then continue to move, and move in only one direction. Forwards. Forgive.Forget and move man. Move like you have never moved before. Because in the end, that’s all life is. Your either moving or your dead.

I’d like to leave the first blog of the year with a quote,

“If in life you keep coming to the same circle no matter how hard you struggle, it’s a damned good time to change your course”

Happy New Year ,2013 is gonna be awesome because am gonna move it with me!

Wham, and life happened …..

The me who is always meta-morphing

September 23, 2012. I started the I am series blog. I was determined on posting a blog every day or every other week at least. And i was getting close to that discipline. I was geared up. Driven and all fired up I made a decision to move the core operations of my business to Cebu. It’s a new growing potential there and i have had moderate success here based on my own personal standards. I still had my doubts. One feet in and another still in KL I gave my partner here 75% of my commitment. Barely a week in, I get the call, rather the email. An email, that shattered me and my being. An email, that changed everything, an email that said my mom passed away suddenly. The worse thing than that email is that i missed the funeral. From the point i got the email to me actually returning home took me 2 days. I never got to see my mom’s face upon her death.

All i have now is a single digital picture that was taken few weeks before she died.

My mom has always been my biggest supporter. However due to certain society pressures this highly progressive woman eventually caved in to the pressure and my personal relationship with my mom deteriorated, rather badly. As a matter of fact there was small feud that went on with myself and my mom the few months before she died. Misunderstandings and failure to communicate effectively on  my part is to be blamed. Being surrounded by an environment that’s detrimental to personal growth and personal breakthrough,  that was hers.

I was in a full on therapist mode for the two weeks mourning period as is the norm with Hindu rites. I myself do not prescribe to the idea of branding myself with “a” religion.

But my mother was a very pious and devout Hindu. In due accordance with her personal belief she had a very Hindu way of sending the departed soul.  I shaved my head bald as a symbol that one carries when a parent passes. Then after all is said and done, the relatives who came to show their support, left to fend for their own lives. I too bid farewell to my dad and left and took the flight back. One of my best friends sent me to the airport and talked with me about his own personal struggles in life.

I arrived in Cebu and the grief that I wasn’t able to show started manifesting in the ugliest of forms. I hated myself and everything living. Thoughts of suicide re-appeared far more frequently.  My friends and partner were worried, yet their strength helped me sustain. Until one night. I have never dreamed of a dead relative , no matter how close we were. That night I started feeling the presence of someone else in my home. I wasn’t scared as a feeling of familiarity crept in. When I went to bed that night I saw my mom in all her glory sitting beside me in my bed. As she was touching my face saying everything will be alright and she understands fully what happened and that she will be by my side, I felt a huge block of rock just lifted from the inner me. I woke up smiling the next day and I felt my mom’s presence around me for few more days till it was 30 days to the day she passed on.

My mom, who has been the pivotal point in my personal growth as an individual has come back in form of a spirit or soul and has once again uplifted me. My commitment for my business and my role in making a difference in this beautiful island of Cebu went from 75% to 1000%.  That is not a typo, I really mean a thousand percent. For I believe as the descendant of a migrant from India to Malaysia, my role , my purpose in life transcends my country of birth. This place I am in now needs me more than my country of birth. This place deserves a chance. So many wonderful souls here. So many beautiful hearts. All yearning for an opportunity to make a difference. I am committed to helping with creating that opportunity. The son of a woman who was known for education and growth is now doing the same on a bigger scale here.

Everything I was, is because of my mother, everything I am is because of my experience, everything that I will be is because who I choose to be. I choose to be one with everything synonymous with growth and opportunity to shine. I am who I will be and who I can be. I am. I am. I am.

EGO, STUFF AND HAPPINESS

We all want things. I do and you do. When I was younger I wanted so much more things. Material things. I was gravely, and I meant gravely unhappy not having things. I wanted so many fancy shiny toys ranging from cars to clothes to women! Was I happy ? Well momentarily.  I went from being humble, to a cocky A@#  Son Of A #$^%. The more stuff  I had the more miserable I became. I mean it was fun for a while, but it was never enough. It was always about the next thing and next thing. Never stopping. But the happiness would spike up, especially when I felt better around people who didn’t have what I had. Although I would try to mask it as humility, the joy was clear. But again that wasn’t joy or happiness. It was something far sinister, EGO, the acronym for EDGING GOD OUT.  Let me explain. We come into this world, having nothing. Not even the clothes on our back. When we die we also carry nothing. Birth and death are not real, merely a cycle of a larger cosmic dance. Hence life is also not real. What you achieve in life, is just mere knowledge, so when your soul matter becomes something else, you carry that knowledge. But the earth realm is a temptress. Sometimes we tend to forget the big picture, that all there is to this plane of existence is to exist, to love and to live. We can live without McDonalds and Starbucks. But, if you are comforted by the lack of soulful fulfillment, you tend to fill it up with material stuff. Now I am not saying that material things are all bad and all that stuff. I do enjoy a good latte. But, the world is in its current predicament of stress, pain and suffering constantly because of these wants. EGO eventually leads to greed. And greed, well that just leads you to do a lot of stupid things. And eventually you become miserable again, What’s the point of it all then? The quest was to be happy, so why not find an eternal way of joy? Why again and again try to buy happiness, when it has been said over and over again, the best things in life are free! So this is my simple formula for happiness. Hope it works for you too.

EGO PURGING STEP

  1. Divide the material good that you want and have by a 100. Meaning if you have 5 material goods (money, cars, toys, iPhones, hot swimsuit models, etc.), it becomes 20% per item.
  2. For each material good your ego is multiplied by 5%. So if you have 5 material goods, your ego is 5 % X 5, equals to 75% ego.
  3. For your happiness scale, minus 100 % with your current ego. So if your ego is 75% , and you deduct it with 100%, you get 25% happiness. That is how happy you are.

This scale is a formula to help you evaluate only. There is no scientific research done to it. But just humor yourself to see if it is accurate. If it is,  then great. If it is not then I guess this isn’t for you. Just a logical analysis, if the happiness percentage is less the 50%, it means you are happy only half the time. So is owning and wanting all this constantly really worth sacrificing your own happiness?

LET GO. LIVE BY DESIGN

Slow Down. It’s Ok.

Take the foot off the accelerator

When you are driving really fast. music and air-conditioning on full blast, and the car runs out of gas, and the nearest gas station is 2 kilometers away, what do you do ? Most of the advice would be to keep the speed so you can reach the gas station. But if you do that, instead of gas there will only be hot air to keep the car going and it will stall, and if you were to over confident on the ability to make it to the gas station and you did not even move towards the emergency lane, the car could stall right in the middle of the highway and be run over by other cars coming at high speeds, causing you damage physically and emotionally.

This is the very same principal in life. If you feel that you are moving too fast in life, faster than your ability to grow and mature emotionally and mentally the best thing to do is to slow down.

If you are spending more money then you are making , stop, slow down.

In the situation of the car the best thing to do is, to switch to the emergency lane, reduce your speed so the rpm is between 1000  to 2000, switch off the a/c, wind down the window and take it easy. When you switch off the a/c, you immediately save about 40% of your fuel consumption and when the rotation cycle per minute of the engine is drastically slowed down, so too is the fuel intake. Makes sense right ? But how do I know this ? Simple, you learn, you read about fuel consumption, and you understand how a car works. You don’t have to be a repairman or a mechanic, but understanding the clear fundamentals of how your car works, will save you a lot of trouble.

Same exact scenario when it comes to life. So many people today all over the world get into credit cards and loans without fully understanding how money really works. They get a job that pay 3,000 a month. They realize that they can’t make ends meet, so they get a job that pays more, but they also live higher than the wage that pays more. Eventually this pattern will reach a saturation point and bam, just like the stalled car, life will stall too. Some get out of the stalled situation and get back into the cycle, well a lot of people stay in the rut and fall below in the lines developed by society.

Imagine, if you make a 3,000 a month salary and your take home pay is probably about 2,500. After all your rent’s and bills, you have probably 200 left. But you don’t let that stop you, and you allow credits cards to own your life. Buying and spending on things that you really don’t need. What is the purpose of paying for an annual gym membership, if you attend it once a month ? If you were forced to pay that amount with cash, you would think 3 or 4 times even about doing that. But when you are given the credit card option, you believe in something that has not materialized, and you sign your life over.

STOP ACCELERATING. SLOW DOWN. COOL OFF. TAKE IT EASY.

You only have to live and please yourself, no one else. Don’t live your life on just hot air. Have substance. BE tangible. And when you have the means, then the cruise of life will feel a million times more rewarding.

LIVE BY DESIGN.

LIMITATIONS….. CRUSH AND DESTROY IT !

CLIMB THE WALLAn aggressive title I must say. TO CRUSH AND DESTROY. But context. That’s what matters. I AM CRUSHING AND DESTROYING my limitations. That there is good context. LIMITATIONS. A word that has stopped many from truly growing because they see these walls of limitation everywhere they see, everywhere they and in everything they do. It may not show up immediately when you embark on something, be it a job, a relationship or anything else for that matter. Everything that we want to do , we can do. Good or bad, again that’s context. But if your intentions in the context of growth, love and peace, then I guess you are okay, in my books anyway. So what is LIMITATION. Put simply with all the semantics aside, LIMITATIONS are nothing but not knowing. Whatever the situation is, all limitations is just that, not knowing. For example, you want to say….design an app. So you go ahead and draft out the idea of your app. Your research it, you design the look and feel of it. Then you hit that wall of LIMITATION. You realize that you don’t know how to write an app. Oh damn! Then you start getting mad. Then you get sad. Then you get stupid, which is you say the all the time popular looser mantra, “ah well, that’s not meant to be and it probably wouldn’t have been worth it any way, there are better app’s out there and cheaper. I don’t think I would have been able to pull it out”. You go ahead from being an inspired visionary to a depressed and self-defacing moron. I know this how ? Because I have been both. And many times I was the self-defacing moron. But that’s the thing, if you have been an inspired visionary and you have a record of the proof o success of your visions, you can always boot out the self-defacing moron that lives within all of us.

ANYTHING at all and when I say ANYTHING, I mean ANYTHING can be done and done well by ANYONE and I mean ANYONE at all at ANYTIME and I mean ANYTIME. How do I know that ? Because I AM that ANYONE at ANYTIME doing ANYTHING all the time every time. Growing up I was heavily discouraged from favoring arts or sports and was just badgered to learn and study school books. Every hobby I had was mocked and thrashed. When I grew up, I got into a frenzy of working out and for 7 years I worked out every day, twice a day at times and had the body image that I wanted. I was horrible in college as it was an arts college and for years I carried that limitation from childhood with me, and was a below average student. Every time I see my friends with amazing design and artistic skills I felt like I never belonged. Well now, from a graduating class of 20 plus kids of my batch mates only a handful are actually practicing “artists” if you’d will. And I am director and actor and writer and designer and well . I AM an artist too.

EVERYTHING is possible at ANYTIME by ANYONE. Even when you become old and outdated , which I feel sometimes especially these days with the Justin Bieber and Mylie Cyrus generation, I AM still capable of DOING ANYTHING at ANYTIME. All you need is focus and discipline and the drive to do it.

Let me share my simple formula of getting ANYTHING done at ANYTIME by ANYONE with you.

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  1. GET RESOURCEFUL – Stop focusing and whining with what you don’t have currently. HAVING is just an illusion. It is never real. So FOCUS on what is real. YOU in the NOW is the only REALITY hence the only REAL RESOURCES you have is what is with you NOW. USE that, whatever it is. Computer’s, internet, money, people, books whatever it is. BE RESOURCEFUL with the RESOURCES that exist in your life at this moment, because they are there for you to use them for the exact reason you want them for.
  2. FOCUS – This is tough. BUT get through this eventually the FOCUS becomes you and you will just glide through. When you hit a bump FOCUS on the big picture.
  3. BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND – Whatever it is that you are trying to achieve, always begin with how it will be and how you want it to be when you have it. No matter how difficult it seems, have the end in mind. Have a picture of how it should look like and it will help.
  4. HYDRATE– Have water. No SODA”s. Tea is fine. Coffee is ok. But water , plain old H2O is the best. So hydrate. When you are in the creation mode, there is so much energy passing through you if you don’t hydrate, you will burn out and feel lethargic.
  5. GET ALIGNED – During this phase, at all cost’s stay away from toxic individuals. ONLY be around and in contact of positive and likeminded people. (THIS IS THE MOST VITAL STEP). Tune out the toxic people.
  6. IGNORE THE MORON WITH IN– Our biggest enemy, is self-doubt. From time to time the inner self-defacing moron will pop up making you feel lost, hopeless, depressed and as if you can’t do it. SLAP OUT OF IT. I mean if you have to literally SLAP yourself so the pain will misdirect the moron with-in. I mean this. And the moron will pop up a lot when you are used to being doormat in life. As you become stronger, the moron will become a friend.

BE GRACEFUL- Remember, you began this with personal fulfillment in mind. Don’t gloat about, don’t get big headed about it. Just ACCEPT, ADAPT and CHANGE.  ACCEPT that you have what it takes to do what you set out to do, ADAPT to the situations and challenges that pop up and CHANGE the approach to your future decisions and executions of ideas.

Well good luck to all of you, I do hope you actually do it, but then again who decides for you, the INSPIRED and GROWTH oriented you or the inner moron ?

YOU DECIDE. YOU MAKE LIFE HAPPEN.

ROUTINE

I hate that word. As a matter of fact I despise it. In spite all of my big talk about being different; doing things differently and growing personal identity and all that, ROUTINE is something that is vital for personal growth. YES! A daily routine is vital for how your day goes in and out.

Routine helps develop habits. Habits help develop discipline. And discipline develops skills. Skills develop quality. And quality develops incomes and other slew of things that go with it. Nothing and I mean NOTHING happens overnight. Good or bad it’s all a cascading effect, try being late for everyday to work. It will accumulate and you will lose your job.  What if you’re early on time to work every day, that it becomes a habit. And suddenly one day you are late? People start worrying about you. Because your on timely behavior has become a habit and that garnered respect for your punctuality. Hence if you are late it must mean that you are down with something that has prevented you from continuing that routine.

So with all that talk about ROUTINE why is it vital?  If you feel like your life has become staled, then you need a new routine. If you feel stagnant, if you feel there is a lack of growth, if you feel like you are slacking, if your team is slacking, if you just feel you need things to work, my friend start a routine. That eventually becomes a habit. A good habit develops good results and a bad habit…well that just produces really bad results. If you wake up at 6 am every day, exercise, eat a good brekkie, pray, meditate and read or watch something positive and good, do you honestly think that habit over 5 days or 5 years will bring you harm ?

Simple right ? NOW DO IT!   Doing is tough, you may not enjoy the discipline of developing a routine, but hey, the pain of discipline is much less when compared to the pleasure of success.

 

I AM ALL THAT I AM

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BOTTOMS UP

Journeys tend to define us rather than the purpose we started the journey off in the first place – Amar Delon

A COMEDY OF LIFE

or

TO LOOK AT LIFE LIKE A COMEDY

YOU DECIDE !

PREFACE

For those of you who picked up this book thinking, ah yes, a book to help me with my wine selections or any other alcoholic beverages, for those who picked it up thinking, ah.. a book on picking up women or men, for those who picked it up just because the word bottom was on the cover and you secretly wished it would have pictures or information about “bottoms”, I am truly sorry to disappoint you.

IT’S NOT !

If at this point you decide to put down the book and go buy that self help book or a Da Vinci Code book, well, it’s been pretty fun right up to here. So wish you all the best.

For those who have continued to read beyond the last paragraph, for goodness sake, do the right thing. Take the book to the counter and pay for it or if you’re reading an online preview of the book, this is right about the time to put in your credit card details and click BUY. Because watching a pirated DVD isn’t the only kind of piracy. Reading the works of a poor author who is trying to make it without compensating him is also stealing. So I am gonna give you guys a few moments here to buy the book first.

Great! I assume that you have bought the book, so now, you have to put up with whatever I have to say, because you have paid for it.

So don’t let it go to waste!

GOTCHA! – Amar Delon

Don’t whine, this is how the rest of the “NORMAL” world works, a world where there are specific guidelines on how to kill women and children, on how to murder innocent people, a world where it’s OK for big corporate giants to steal billions, screw everyone else in the process and a man who is hungry who steals a loaf of bread gets the harshest punishment possible. A world where it’s OK for billion dollar companies to pour toxic waste into the drains and oceans but is not OK when someone litters on the street. A world where women whose only acclaim to fame and success is that, millions have watched their most intimate acts on the internet, a world where it’s OK for little children to idolize these women, a world where religion can be used to mask murders, rape and genocide but is not OK for someone to defend their rights to individuality.

I AM NEITHER NORMAL NOR DO I WANT TO BE.

CHAPTER 1

NORMALCY …. Really ?

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Wake up. Brush your teeth. Poop. Shower. Stop. Soap yourself. Shower. Get dressed, skip breakfast. Struggle through traffic and noise and pollution. Work for 4 hours, hating every minute of it. Anticipate lunch from the moment you clock in. Go to lunch. Eat what you can afford. Go back to work to continue to hate every minute of it. Have a meeting with your boss whom you secretly wish would be struck down by lightning. Suffer through traffic and arrive home. Have dinner. Sleep. Continue this pointless routine for a salary that is just enough for you to continue this meaningless routine.

If you do the above, then you are NORMAL.

Most families, friends and society will expect you to be NORMAL. Being normal is blissful ignorance. Meaning you know what you do or say or eat will eventually cause you so much more pain than this blissful ignorance is giving you. But you want to be NORMAL so bad, to fit in, so you rely on the words of those who have never set foot even for an inch outside of their comfort circles. And then you have these people (FRIENDS, PARENTS, SOCIETY) telling you about world economics, political trend, fashion, entertainment issues and even finance.

Now being a very abnormal person I find that extremely hypocritical and scary to an extent. If someone who guts fish for a living would come and give you advice on surgery you would laugh the person off as being insane. But when someone who is in your circle, but not necessarily qualified or learned in whatever it is that you for some weird reason have decided to get their advice on says something that to them are facts, you accept it, totally blindsided.

Now why is that ?

Because it’s only NORMAL for people to ask for advice from their friends and family.

Listed below are the achievements of ABNORMAL PEOPLE

1.STEVE JOBS – Known as psychotic and deranged to many of his close peers. Revolutionized music and the whole multimedia and the whole computing and video experience.

FOR THE BETTERMENT OF MANKIND

2.HENRY FORD – Was an open ANTI SEMITE. Had a weird personality. Revolutionized modern transportation.

FOR THE BETTERMENT OF MANKIND

3.THOMAS ALVA EDISON –Many who give reports of this man say that he doesn’t seem normal and is extremely obsessed. Gave humanity usable long term sustainable light bulbs and many other inventions. FOR THE BETTERMENT OF MANKIND

And I could continue the rest of this page and book with all this abnormal people and their achievements.

Now lets go to the NORMAL people.

  1. JOE NEXT DOOR – Pays taxes and bills on time. Provides for his family. Never misses a day of work. Achievement? Well nothing much except that he got really sick and his insurance didn’t really cover his bills. So dies leaving his widow and children with bills and mortgages. BETTERMENT OF MANKIND? Not even on the best day of his life.

Maybe not all you normal folks are like this, but quite a few might fit this mould or would eventually fall into a version of this mould.

Now it’s fairly easy to say, hey be different or do something different. Reality may not be the same to everyone, but the choice of being who you are is definitely different for everyone of us. But why is it so important on being different. I mean if everyone who is abnormal becomes normal doesn’t that make everyone normal again in an abnormal way?

Great question, but the answer is simple, NORMALCY that is defined on your own terms and conditions is a better way to be normal. I mean if you feel happy working a dead end job, then great. Don’t try to change yourself for any other reason than yourself. Pressures from people and emotional blackmails from family members, as hard and difficult as they are, are the best kind of virus to kill dreams, hopes and desires. Have you wondered why there are so many miserable people out there in the world today ? They all have lousy families. But that is the thing there is no such thing as a functioning, “NORMAL” family. Everyone is screwed in their own way. It’s how we allow them to affect us that makes the difference.

This is the preview of my next book. When I started writing this, I was in a place where I felt insulted, undervalued, abused, mistreated, unappreciated and worthless. But even in the darkest hour, the lowest moment, the greatest lessons in living is just waiting for you to unearth. This is my gift to all of you my friends. I AM ALL THAT I AM, I AM.

-Amar Delon